No baby-news today, but this is related to doing the right thing.
Safety - this
is one of the rules which is pretty important for us, now more than before. Somehow I guess it has
been more important for hubby than for me in the past. It's about personal
safety, not taking risks, endangering yourself or anybody else.
If you have read
other entries here you know that I have been speeding-challenged. Driving
recklessly has been one of my favourite pastimes for a longer period of time. I
absolutely enjoy driving fast and the police are not always there to stop fast
subs! This has been one of the issues that we I really had
to work on. I think that hubby helped there a lot, because what I kept doing
was endangering lives, maybe those of other people but definitely my own.
As you can probably all see, such behaviour is
driving hubby absolutely crazy and I really am sorry for the problems that I
have caused. From today's point of view, I have no excuse for my behaviour and
try hard to stick to speedlimits. The pain I'd cause for hubby was the first
reason that got me thinking seriously, hurting him is something I cannot stand.
I am not sure if I really should admit that, but the image of seeing hubby
devastated is what lets me try hardest to drive slowly and carefully, of all
possible reasons. We had to discuss that matter repeatedly in verbal and
physical ways and I have become better over time :) .
But
let me assure you, in my current situation I would never risk anything because
I'd endanger someone who cannot leave the car and take the next bus home.
Similarly,
I'd never ever drink alcohol at all for the next months. If I were a smoker, I
wouldn't do that till October, because at the moment everything always revolves
around 'us'. Hubby would never allow risking baby’s well-being anyway, of
course, and since we are both trying hard to do things right, we don’t expect
problems from that side. After all, I have realised completely that my
responsibility has grown, too. I love that, and it sort of lets me think again about some rules we have.
Having kids does change your driving habits. I used to have a Golf GTI and I got rid of it because it was too easy to drive fast and crazy. I now have a sensible mum mobile :-)
ReplyDeleteHello DF, I think that something like a mum mobile would just be fine for me, too. I am very willing to change my old way of driving, now more than ever before :)
ReplyDeleteIt's sobering but good to have realizations such as this, I think. It causes us to examine our behavior.
ReplyDeleteI am sure you will feel a lot better knowing that you are keeping yourself, the baby, and others safe
as well as knowing your husband will be happy for the change. I do hope you are feeling okay and
that all is going well for you.
hugs and love
sara
Hello Sara, you are absolutely right with your statement. I thought that I had already been good, but now I reconsidered and see that I should really be better than before. Hubby and I have seen the progress that I have made as something positive, but somehow I am a bit more on the touchy side when it comes to safety now and safety has made an enormous jump forward. It has finally turned into my first priority I think.
ReplyDeleteThat hubby is absolutely happy with this change, is also true. He was already pleased with my progress, but I think currently I am really on my way of leaving an impression :) and that I put more effort into changing is something that he enjoys watching. He was very happy when we talked about it last night, because I am very concerned about baby's safety.
We are feeling very well, but I try to sit closer to the bathroom lately and at the moment I think I could sleep forever. We have agreed on earlier bedtimes for me, but more like a general guideline, because last night I could not really sleep and the other nights you could not wake me up at all, therefore hubby watches me closely and then decides whether it is bedtime or not. Right now, I am already stretching my bedtime a little, which is ok for hubby, because I can still keep my eyes open, or at least one. I think I better say good night now :)
hugs and love
Nina
It is amazing how just seeing a line on a pregnancy test can change our worlds, isn't? I hope you keep playing it safe, for baby, and your children so they have a mom around as long as possible. :) I too have a rule about speeding because the Duke doesn't want to risk losing me if at all possible.
ReplyDelete{{{hugs}}} EsMay
EsMay, what you say is so true. I had thought that I had been good enough when it comes to driving, but hubby and I discussed it this week and although he is pleased with how much better I have become, he also wanted me to think whether I could be better. He was not like openly worried, but he knows well that I have been in situations where safety was an issue (because of my driving habits). The problem has always been that I have just not paid attention sometimes, so it was just silly from my side. I’d never willingly do anything dangerous, but this time I sort of have more awareness than in the past. Some would say I am overcautious, I’d say I don’t want to take any risks. I’d rather stay at home than drive if I were not up to driving carefully. And that your hubby just like mine has a rule for speeding is very touching, too, because it also is a symbol for their love and care. I love that, and I know that I have not always lived up to hubby's expectations when it came to the safety and driving rule.
ReplyDeletehugs
Nina