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Wednesday, September 17, 2014

The no-I-don't-want-to-sit-entry



Another one of the pregnancy-related entries. Not for long, then this is over (for the moment!) and I will go on with baby-related entries. :D …. And DD, BDSM, TTWD, gardening, cooking, sewing, painting, and weird things. 

… But not yet. First of all, I think I have to apologize, because I haven’t been here too often lately. One reason is that hubby and I need some time together. At the moment I really feel  am clingy and want hubby near whenever there is a chance. He knows that, because at other times I have far less of a problem with him being away. Currently I cannot stand that at all and hate it. Poor hubby really is there for me, whenever he can and one of the best ways out of hubby-blues is being with friends and family. 

Maybe this sounds strange, but another major reason is that I have trouble sitting for longer periods of time, lately. It simply hurts. It has been for most of this September and of course I can sit, but I only last for a short time before I don’t want to sit any longer. Even ten minutes corner time are a kind of challenge. 

Moving, changing position, stretching on bed, standing up, well, and then I can try sitting again. Eeew, I sound whining again, sorry for that. Imagine my rolling eyes here and now. This kind of annoying pain is completely harmless stuff. I just get the clear signal that baby is where she is supposed to be, ready to be born. But I really wish I could say something like ‘the eagle has landed’ (<--hubby imagined himself saying THIS in the labour ward!); I would like some kind of announcement, but only in cute!
  
Well, much time without much blogging means more family time, which is really great, too, and I try to make the best of it (while standing). My mom told me about lightening (dropping) only a few weeks ago. She was not the first one, but since she had a very vivid and pictorial way of describing how I sunk deep down and pressed on her pelvis … and caused a lot of discomfort with that, I remembered her description when the same happened to me around ten days ago. ... I have to make a mental note; never play the ‘I suffered for you’  - card on baby; not on hubby either! 

Hmm, thinking about this, hubby wouldn’t give me his laptop, so that I could write on bed (more probably in the bathroom, though). Maybe I should play this card? .... Oh no! We definitely enjoy our time here! Hubby even more, because he can eat ice cream … in front of me. This is another kind of torture. I can’t have any of that cold and delicious kind of sweets at the moment. Either my stomach protests, or baby. She has kicked it almost out of me again once. Healthy cereals and soaked prunes are great too …. Sometimes.

In the first week of September I have had two bad nights with false labour. For me, this was not really clear when it happened, but it did not feel like labour, it was just pain in my lower abdomen, without a real rhythm. I was not too worried either, more like waiting what would happen, but had good advice and took a pleasantly warm bath. After midnight. With candles and hubby. You know what, this was one of the best moments ever,  the relief was marvelous! Just the right thing to do, this helped immensely. Since true labour wouldn't stop from taking a warm bath, I felt on the safe side.

Well, I called my doc later, at a decent time (not after midnight!), but she had prepared me for this and apart from being pretty painful, there was nothing too it. Well, maybe the bathroom has become even more of a friend, if that is possible. Anyways, we had a scan only one day later and I went home like a boss. All was and is fine, but sometimes baby kicks up a little bit too much. I think I have had her toes in my nose once, not sure, but it felt like it. It hurt, but that she had kicked me made me so happy while I dried some tears away. I am a masochist.



What next?
There is something I have heard more than once by now. Online, many have hinted at the lack of energy, being tired, exhausted, being only able to care for the bare necessities and baby's well-being. With my sister I have seen some of this in effect, too. And she almost forgot something very important at first. She had not organized some additional helping hands, be it for some grocery shopping, feeding the pets or some cleaning. I am just talking about the basics, which need to be done, where you really should ask for and have help. 

I know, many women do everything without or only little help, even when everything still hurts, too. To be honest, I am very sorry for those who have to do everything, because there is nobody to help.  But if anything, trying to be a display of female independence sounds plain wrong to me right after giving birth, when you are back home the first night. 

I am not there yet, but there will be a lot of pain, during and after delivery. So, this makes it even more important to have someone to help, if possible! Here, we have organized this and our house will probably be overcrowded. Nevertheless, having this backup is so essential, besides, I think it also helps enormously to create this little bit of feeling cared for, which I consider so much more important with baby in my arms. I don’t feel qualified to give advice of any kind, but I wish for every new mom to have this basic support, especially right after returning home with a newborn baby. 






Oh yes! There is no escape, it is countdown – time again!

We have reached week 38!

Starting with week 37, delivery is no longer considered preterm.
This means baby is definitely complete and will just develop a stronger immune system.
I would love to snuggle baby every new week for doing the right things. She will get a lot of that, once she is there!


8 comments :

  1. Hi Nina,
    I love reading what you write because you have a beautifully wacky sense of humor that I love! It's great that you are spending more time with friends and family too, and can arrange to have help after your birth. I was the crazy lady who went to Costco(where everything is heavy and they don't have people to help you!) the day before I went into labor at 40 1/2 weeks pregnant with my last child, gave birth at 9:30 pm and was up cooking breakfast at 8 the next morning. It was doable, but let me tell you: If anyone offers to do ANYTHING for you, let them. Congrats on week 38! You are soooo close :) Believe it or not, you will miss those feelings of baby kicking one day. After my last birth I even had "phantom" baby kicks, which were just gas bubbles, but my brain tried to tell me it was a baby :) Wishing you a peaceful Wednesday!

    River

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  2. Oh River, so it was you I saw?! :-D I can't approve of that at all, young lady! (practising for later, when baby understands that!). This sounds like a 24 hour night shift and this was definitely too crazy. I am so glad that you managed well, but with 40 1/2 weeks someone should have carried you, instead of you carrying anything but your bump. Somehow this must have been a little bit like my sister did it, she was up and doing all kinds of things faster than she should have, too. So, I will gladly accept anybody's help.... if I can. The problem is sometimes this urge to do things, but I'll just stick to caring for baby for the first days. That's decided. If my mother-in-law were closer, she'd be there as soon as labour starts, and she alone would be more than enough to care for three families, as she cannot sit around for longer times and relax.
    I can imagine easily that I will miss baby's kicks. That I feel her in this way is one of the best parts of my pregnancy. And I think I actually cope pretty well with the (few) painful ones and enjoy the others so much more. I know it is pretty early to say anything like it, but right now, even with a heavy bump, hope that I have more babies kicking, once baby is born. I love (most) of the kicks and the idea of more kids, too. I hope you have a wonderful Wednesday, too.

    hugs

    Nina


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  3. You're using "she" a lot in reference to your baby! Does that mean it's a girl??!! ;) I'm seriously so excited for you. I wish you the healthiest and speediest labor, with all of the strength and confidence in the world!

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    1. Hi Autumn, I have no idea whether baby will be a boy or a girl. Buuut, if you asked me :-D I’d bet on a girl. I couldn’t give a real reason and maybe I am completely wrong with my idea, though I am almost sure.
      Hubby knows the answer, because he has seen something when we had a scan, but I do not want to know before baby is there. So, this is a great surprise and I love it this way. We’ll love baby, no matter what, and for me it is exciting just to guess and not to know yet. I mean, I want to know more, of course, but only when I can hold her.
      Thanks for the best wishes, I am not worried about labor, but definitely hope it will be speedy (not like delivery in a car, though!).

      hugs

      Nina

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  4. Nina, I had to giggle at the title because I was thinking this coul fit pregnant or not LoL. Sorry, I just had to ssy that ... Ahem. I'm glad you are spending more time with friends and family and that you have organised help for once baby is here. So close and I'm so excited for you! Wishing you all the very best.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Hi Roz, I had not thought about it before, but you are definitely right, the title could be said by a petulant little/big girl, too. :-) Hey, at least I try to be good! :)
      I love that we can create the time we need here. When I started organizing that friends and family help a little, for the first time when we are back from the clinic, they were all absolutely open and very willing. The moment is really close now, and it was pretty quick, wasn’t it?

      hugs

      Nina

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  5. Well there goes my bath suggestion! I know the end can be so uncomfortable for many. Fortunately I didn't have that with any of mine. The beginnings were awful for me!

    I like reading about your pregnancy so write away.....here are some post birth suggestions, because I really have nothing else to say LOL. Keep a few pads in the freezer. They really to help with some relief after. After your shower or bath ( which if you have stitches put baking soda in the tub with you helps with the itchiness) use a hair dryer to dry any stitches you have. It is amazing how the 'drying' and pulling of the stitches after a bath or shower can irritate but the hair dryer is quicker and seems to make things better. When the baby sleeps....YOU sleep! This is the most important one and you'll be tempted to skip it. DON'T. Oh also if you start to become engorged, keep your bra ON! LOL. If you become engorged stick your boobs in warm water to let a little out. It helps a lot too. LOL...So that is all the 'tips' I have for after now.

    I hope you get your burst of energy and and your sweet pea will be here soon!

    Best of luck~~
    willie

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    1. Hi Willie, yep, thank you for the warm bath! I mean, for the advice! It helped, it didn’t take long and it was so wonderful. Wish every kind of pain would pass that quick. The freezer pads are a good idea. I have put them onto the fridge for the moment. Somehow this reminds me of producing ice milk. Yummy.
      I have not heard the dryer idea before, and I do hope that maybe I get around that, but I’ll still put everything in reach, just to make sure. There is not much worse than itching stitches, that’s awful. I only had that under a leg in plaster once and it drove me crazy.
      Sleeping is still a problem though I have not given up hope of sleeping somehow, when baby is there. Besides, I am listening very closely and do want to obey this one golden rule. My mom told me that sleep is the major thing to catch up on while being in the clinic too. I’ll ask hubby to read here, just this once, so that he’ll have an eye on me with the sleep-issue.
      Urgh, just imagining that the two engorged girlies spiral downwards if you take off the bra causes pain. I will try to keep this in mind, thank you so much, I appreciate your support so much.

      hugs

      Nina

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