As you can see, I am trying to figure out again how to change the colours and pictures in my blog. Well, if I go on like that I will have the perfect Christmas background around Easter. Ok, challenge accepted! This computer stuff takes time for me, especially since I am distracted and don't have much time to spend on this either, uhmmm and maybe also because I simply have no clue. :)
In more than one way, the 'only 30 minutes' situation from my last post is still haunting me. It is another kind of construction site. It seems that I cannot get out of this situation so that it is settled for me, or I am strong enough not to worry about it. And I do know that for some it might just appear as a small kind of problem.
In a way, it is. Nevertheless, I have imagined all sorts of baby-related problems coming up once Tilda was there. But I had never imagined a bunch of family and friends who care so much that they want to do too much good by offering too much help, so that I could have a sort of time-out I simply do not want.
Writing it down like this has an alleviating effect, but I am not done with this issue. There will still be a lot of talking involved, until I have convinced everybody, especially my mom. I love her, but she is not really listening at the moment. My best female friend understood pretty well that I did not want to leave my baby alone yet. And I wanted to keep Amy out of this if possible, because she's family and too close and important, not only for me, but also for my parents. So, if I forced her to take sides, she would probably find a way, but it would be pretty unfair to drag her into something I should be able to solve either on my own or together with hubby. Actually I'd prefer to get through this without him or anybody else interfering, though I cannot even say why.
Hubby understood that all I want is some time. He has made his point, he would like to see me have a little extra-time for myself but won't push me. All in all, we do have time together (with Tilda nearby) and that's ok for him, for now. Well, this month is a bad example for 'us' time, because until the beginning of next year we have to make sure we do find enough time together, because he is pretty busy and away from home.
Be that as it may, I seem to leave the impression of suffering from cabin fever or something like that. Maybe I have talked too much to Tilda and they all think I am completely nuts. I don't know.
Well, but if, then ....
If anybody wonders what the heck I am writing, I am sorry, at least half of this is more like talking to myself to organize my thoughts.
I couldn't resist this one
(not my place!?)
Anyways, I hope that all of you have a wonderful rest of the week, and if possible hug someone you love.
It is one of the best ways to feel so much better.
I love your comment about working on your blog. It reminds me of me. I finally got snowflakes but I may have them all year because I'm not sure if I will remember how to get rid of them.
ReplyDeleteLOL Sunny...write the instructions as a helpful hint on your blog and then when you're ready to reverse them, you will have the instructions close at hand. ;) Hugs...Cat
DeleteHi Sunny, everything computer-related is a mystery for me. So, getting through the changes in blogger was not easy. I took some how-to notes, though, just in case. I would love to have something moving in my blog, but have not yet found out how.
DeleteThe snowflakes in your blog are great, I love them.
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Cat, I did that, I took notes, so that I’d not lose my blog by pushing the wrong button. … If you can read this, I did something right. :)
DeleteLOL Nina...I do like your challenge. Ya know...all those who want to help you..;I think they just want alone time with Tilda. LOL We call them 'baby hogs' around here...they just want to hog the baby! *snicker* If you would enjoy a soak in the tub, you could let your mom come over and take care of Tilda while you're in the tub...would let her feel as if she was helping but you would still be right there. Would that we a good compromise? Bottom line...no matter what anyone recommends, the final decision is whatever makes you and hubby comfortable.
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Hi Cat, your suggestion is just right. This might solve a lot of problems for the moment … and the tub is a good place to be, Tilda nearby, mom content because by helping out she got what she wanted too. LoL, I have already asked her and she was delighted and happy, because finally I’d do something for myself (and she could be a baby hog; never heard this one before, but love it)… :D <--- me, happy face! I wouldn’t have thought how much of a negotiator I’d have to be to satisfy some of our loved ones. Thank you for this.
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Hi Nina, I am do with you on the blog. I am no good with this sort of thing and usually call upon helper elves to help me :)
ReplyDeleteI think Cat has a wonderful idea. At the end of the day, it is what you and hubby are comfortable with. It would be good for Tilda to get used to others csring for her though, and a good break for you for short periods I think and if you can arrange something like Cat suggested, you can still be on hand.
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Hi Roz, making changes to the blog always scares me a lot. This time I wrote it all down, so that I can look it up again, later.
DeleteI can only agree, Cat’s idea is great and much better than anything else I had thought about. I hope so much that it works out and all our needs are met.
Since sitting in the tub is a situation where it is awkward to get out again quickly, my mom is very happy to help out, so I am very hopeful that we have found a good way out. :)
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Oh Nina, Sometimes well meaning people are just not what you need. I guess Cat's idea is a good one but what about trying to suggest to your mum that you and her have a girl's day and then include Tilda too. If all else fails you need to just say no, sorry you are not ready and get your understanding friend to be with you and back you up. I think I would have just kept on avoiding the issue though and simply not left her ! I am hopeless with the blog changing. I would love the snowflakes but that is a step too far. As soon as I changed for Christmas I started worrying about how to change it back!! I hope things work out well, am sending a little hug to Tilda xx
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Hi Jan, you are right, and these troubles are what I would have expected least. And I also thought that Cat had a wonderful way out of this (seems to work, my mom was happy because I asked her to help me out). A girls’ day sounds great too and I might appease my mom with it.
DeleteI do hope that I can simply solve the issue this way. One of my alternatives would have been avoiding/ignoring too, and I guess I did for a while, but I am glad that I can somehow oblige and still have it my way too.
I am hopeless with the blog changes too, so I took notes and am currently trying to organize them. I’ll put them here, so that maybe they can help us. I am always afraid of losing the blog because of doing something wrong and hope I’ll be able to change it back, too.
Thank you for the little hug, Tilda loved it, she was flailing around with her arms, because she has a sensitive neck and any touch there is somehow exciting for her. :)
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I long for a grandchild so I can understand how your mum is. I am sure if I lived next door to you I would be pestering you to let me have a turn at babysitting too. !! I have a married son and a courting son now and I see grandchildren on the horizon ... My youngest son's partner is a midwife so at least we know she loves babies!! They are looking to buy a house near us , and say I will be a handy babysitter so cross your fingers for me. Changing the blog is jolly difficult, I am hopeless at anything technical and I ask my son ( he is a computer draughtsman) but obviously I can't show him the actual blog!
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Jan, you will be awesome as a grandmom! And it is great that there might be grandchildren in sight in the near future. Keeping fingers crossed!
DeleteYour sons and daughters-in-law will love you babysitting and once I get used to the idea and can let go, I'll have less of a problem with giving Tilda to my mom too.
I guess the changes in my blog are pretty basic and that alone proved challenging enough for me. Oh no, it is a real dilemma that your son is an expert and you cannot show him your blog. Has he ever asked about it, or did you ask in a very general way, so that he doesn't know you have your own blog?
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I'm absolutely no help with the blog thing, I choose not to figure it out..maybe one day. good luck on your though!
ReplyDeleteI am usually very careful offering parenting advice, it's just something that you have to figure out for yourself. Every child and every situation is different, and you both learn what works for you along the way. I can totally relate to your situation, I remember my family wanting to take our firstborn, so I could have some alone time. I just wasn't ready, and being away from my baby would stress me out. There will come a day when you will be ready, but until you are, you need to tell them. Being a new parent is stressful enough and you don't need to add to the stress. I know your family is just trying to help, everyone loves new babies! Their day for babysitting will come soon enough. I have the opposite problem now, finding childcare :) I guess what I'm trying to say is, trust your instincts as a mom. You'll know when the time is right :)
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Hi Jennelle, oh, my it is such a weird situation to have loved ones who are well-meaning and then having to refuse them, isn't it? Being without Tilda is a thought I really cannot stand, but I loved Cat's idea as a great way out of this and the girls' day idea from Jan to get this somehow settled. I am very sorry that you have trouble finding childcare and I can imagine that even if there are offers, you will look so closely if you would want them to be around your children at all. I hope so much you find someone suitable for childcare soon. (Sorry for being late with my reply, suddenly it's all haywire here).
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