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Wednesday, July 2, 2014

Going places

Hubby and I talked about some of the changes that are happening right now (from average size to giant balloon), from doing more sports to doing less, from normal breathing to huffing and puffing, from emotional fits to .... oh wait, bad example. I had those before pregnancy as well. But now they are different. E.g. when hubby was on a business trip and I missed him so much that it hurt. I could go on but have already mentioned some changes in my blog, so I'll skip it now.

But hubby has reminded me of another major change, now, that it is almost too late!  It is about time. You, as experienced mommies, have already mentioned that my daily schedule will be completely different when baby is there, sleeping will also be a serious problem and fatigue will be my best friend for months. Well, I have some practice with sleeping the 'economic way', but from what the mommies say, this is only a minor inconvenience to what the first months will be like when baby is there. I have also seen that change in one of my friends. From beautiful pregnant woman, a symbol of healthy life (most of the time), to a sleepwalking ghost-like creature. Poor girl, exhausted, but very happy mommy.  





Therefore hubby has advised that I should think about what I'd still like to do without planning ahead, as long as this is possible. Hmmm, what I'd like to do is what hubby and I have done excessively lately. I enjoyed every minute of it. Going places? Hmmm, the only place  I'd like to see again before baby is born, is our family in England, and we are right in the middle of preparing everything for that one. Oh, and going to the beach this summer would be neat. DF has written about indulgence, they are great ideas and most of them happen here in one form or the other. I added another walk in warm summer rain. But that's all I'd like to do for now. Nothing fancy.

Of course, I will think more about this, but chances are that it will not change much. So, I am content just to be boring, because I have no special wishes at the moment. I mean, I love going places, with hubby, with close friends, with family. And then it is exciting. But I really couldn't come up with anything that I wanted to do more than the ordinary, pretty average pregnant and housewife things I do anyway. I can meet my friends and spend time with them. That's what I like, and most of the time I don't care about where this is.

The other things that I have on my list are out of question now. I'd like to do some more sports again, of the kind where my bump would be at risk, therefore, no - no - no!


 I don't think I could ever do this.


 I can't wait for this here, though



What I'd definitely and always want is just more time with hubby. Currently things are going crazy in his business, which is good for us, because a lot of work means a good income. But then again it is bad for us, because hubby has to work more and that means less time for us. Hmmm, sounds like a common and widespread problem.

Well, boring as it sounds, but I am absolutely content and happy in our situation (apart from the time issue). Loved friends nearby, hubby there, baby happy and doing fine (woohoo, countdown! week 27!! I think 91 days left until our due date). I can enjoy blogging, our garden, the hammock. I don't want anything else. A year ago, I'd maybe have had different ideas (fantasies; if money was no issue), e.g. going to fancy places like Rio, Paris, etc., some mountain climbing, tracking tours, etc. .  Well, no, thank you, not now, please. I am not even interested. Currently the appeal is gone. Give me a cookie, instead.

Besides, hubby wasn't really talking about extravagant places or activities, I know. Instead, he meant to use the time and just do things the way I want and when I want. This will change completely when baby is there. Then our (mostly my) daily routine will be completely dictated by her needs. I love that idea, and I know that the difficult moments are yet to come. Maybe I should just go and sleep in my hammock now.



8 comments :

  1. Hi Nina,
    It's good that you are content with things as they are now :-) Being a new mom CAN be overwhelming, but it isn't always. The issues come if you are having trouble nursing, or baby is collicy, or if you don't nap when baby does. But honestly they sleep so much the first few months, with my first I had to fight the temptation to wake her up to see her!You can also get a sling or wrap for outings and walks, so your hands can be free and baby will be tucked snug against you. It sounds like you plan on having baby in bed with you,so after some practice you can sleep while nursing too :-) You're gonna do a great job and be a wonderful mommy to the bump!

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  2. Hi River, I think I have been content most of our marriage, but currently, everything is fantastic. You are absolutely right, there will be times when it is easier and then there are surely the troubled times. One of the major troubles my sisters and my mother had was during nursing, because they all had extremely sore nips after a short while, no matter what they did. Since this seems to run through the family, I prepare for the worst there, but I want to breastfeed baby, nevertheless. For the first months, we will probably have baby in bed and in a little cradle. I think it is lovely to have baby in bed, and I definitely love the idea to sleep a little on, while nursing :). Hubby and I have talked about it and we’ll try to figure out how to get enough rest for all of us.

    We have got a wrap sling for outings, which I like, and I could try it with some babies in the family. But we also have a Baby Bjoern (baby carrier). I like the wrap a little better at the moment, because I can feel more of baby than in the baby carrier, but I found that the carrier is easier and quicker to buckle on. My midwife said that it is a matter of preference what you finally end up using most. I have not decided that yet but I am happy and very excited just because I am in a situation where I am actually allowed to discuss the details of carrying baby around after delivery. :)

    hugs

    Nina

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  3. Carriers are great (though mine seemed to be sick in them) They do give you the opportunity to hold hands with hubby. Another one of those little indulgences I missed - hands constantly on pushchair or holding little hands. Make the most of those hand holding moments when you go out walking.
    Sore nips - I suffered badly with no. 1. With no. 2 I rubbed lanolin on my nipples daily for a couple of weeks before baby was due. It helped and I used it after most feeds. No sore nips.
    I was happy to have baby in bed with us, but P worried he might roll on to her. So I think he slept worse than me some times.
    hugs
    DF

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    1. DF, I love holding hands, and we will try the wrap or the carrier. Both leave me with hands free for it. Yes, it has another German name, but lanolin is what is used here, too, though I did not know that starting before baby is due would be the best way to prevent it. I think they all started only after they had the problem. Thank you for that, I'll go for it!

      hugs

      Nina

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    2. of course baby 1 probably toughened them up, but I still think it helped. Latching on correctly is the key.
      I've just seen your caption for Hermione's picture ... lol !!!

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    3. Yes, latching on correctly makes it easier, and I am pretty sure they all did, but had sore nips nevertheless. But I'll start using lanolin before baby is due, it can only help.
      Hey, this caption is first hand experience. But I have no memories of having slept in a tree this year ...

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  4. Hi Nina, I think it's great you are feeling content and happy, and it doesn't sound boring :)

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Hi Roz, when I am not having my grumpy day, I think it is easy for me to feel content and happy, which I am very grateful for. Big excitement would not feel right for me anymore, and I also know that it does not take much to unbalance me at the moment. I mean emotionally, physically is even easier right now. :) Therefore, currently life is awesome and we cherish and appreciate every moment and hope it lasts.

      hugs

      Nina

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