DD or D/s what led you into doing that?

At first I had thought why not choose a provocative, plain wrong and stupid title, like 'only mentally challenged people do DD or D/s'. Then I reconsidered, because there are still people who would believe that rubbish statement, and it would probably hurt the feelings of many others, which would be a really bad thing to do. Therefore the matter-of-fact title, which should help me to organise my own way to DD and into D/s.
This thesis, where people who are into DD or D/s might have had traumatic childhood experiences, does not apply to me. My parents were not into traumatising their children. None of us got beaten physically or hurt emotionally, although I still wonder how they managed to remain calm with the brats we often were. Well, they did and I am happy that I have these parents out of all. I think the Christmas presents for my parents should be especially big ones this year.
Then what about other sources of problems? Traumatic experiences at school? Sure there are some, but not much worse than those that every teenager has to live with. The worst thing that ever happened to me at school was a case of sexual harassment, but these guys were stopped in time, though this actually would have ended as a rape-case, if they had not been stopped in time. But as I said, they were stopped and I have had plenty of opportunities  to cope with that. Besides, round about twenty years later, this feels like a very distant event which does not matter any longer and has never mattered much.
So, what led me into this exciting and absolutely positive direction? Of course, the main reason why I am Master's slavegirl and accept discipline and punishment today is my Master. He led me along that path, which I am very grateful for. It felt right from the beginning, after some bad relationships with partners who could not even see my needs and me who did not see these needs either. I did not even know they existed in me. Then there was this attractive man with a different demeanor, with 'edges' all around him, who would let you feel like a princess on the one hand and on the other hand would scold you like a little girl, if you behaved like one. Him telling me off, although we did not know each other well was a critical moment, because he was the first one who did that and I thought that I should turn around and walk away (political correctness said: 'run girl run'; my innermost self said 'that's it, this is better than anything you have ever had in your life!'). But I didn't couldn't run, because with him scolding me he had created a feeling of being well-protected and cared for, from one moment to the other. And I already trusted him far too much. Him telling me off actually added to that trust, because I knew that was his inner self which I saw, no masks, no acting, only him, which was incredibly attractive to me. Irresistable! That was the 'Wow-moment' of my life. Everything else followed, and my Master showed me what I really needed (mind: not what I wanted, I learned the difference later on, too), because I still had no idea about subs or dominants and ideas about bdsm were only a collection of prejudices and not based on any knowledge at all.
Anything that followed and led us deeper into DD and D/s was a positive development from the beginning, learning from positive and negative moments included. I know this sounds all positive and for us, it is, but there's is a lot of work in a relationship, if you want it to be a good one. Master and I do that together, we work on our relationship in different ways and see the  good results of that. We cherish and love our love and trust in each other, our communcation, our means to exchange emotions, fears and joys, our  intimacy and so many other things. For me, all this is closely connected to my wow-moment, which let me go in the right direction, where life is not feeling cold or about financial success. This is only about the really important things that make life worth living and I hope so much that everybody gets this moment in life.

How do we share emotionally?

before anybody starts getting angry, I don't believe that women love more than men, but I believe often men and women love differently. This is my attempt to organise my own ideas about that topic and I don't want to criticise anybody with it and I apologize if I appear to do so.
Let's start with sex again to serve as an example. Done with the right partner it is all heaven and bliss, but I could not even imagine doing any kind of sexual activities if I was not emotionally involved with a partner, it would spoil the fun in it on the one hand and I would have nothing but a feeling of emptiness in me. I do not even believe that it is possible to have sex and not be emotionally involved. If so, it would be a saddening experience. I know that there are many women who don't have this narrow-minded point of view, and I think this is something that they share with many men who are serial womanisers and enjoy sex with people they do not even know. But this is not my cup of tea.
Sex is not the same as love, instead I automatically connect sex to intimacy, showing hubby/Master myself most vulnerable and being in harmony with him, because we see each other's needs in that moment. But perceiving your partner's needs does not even have to be a physical activity at all. We connect sex to it, because sex helps a lot in creating this moment where you either show yourself emotionally completely unprotected or you perceive your partner in this most vulnerable state. And sometimes sex is the right means instead of finding the right words to tell your partner what you feel, or instead of speaking in the wrong moment where you'd only lose this connection and destroy the moment.
Nevertheless, on an emotional level, we do not necessarily need sex to exchange intimacies with each other (although I love that part a lot a lot a lot), it also happens if you hug, laugh, cry, look at your partner's needs, talk and listen (!!!!) to each other and more. As a result you might have this feeling that your partner is there for you. If you don't feel that you can talk to your partner on a deeper level, so that you get the impression he does not give you attention when it is needed, then this connection might suffer too. Instead, if you have this moment of being truly together, even if it is only short, it might strengthen the relationship a lot.
The other important point is that your partner is there and able to perceive underlying messages in what you communicate with him. What if he only takes everything at face value? For me this would cause a lot of problems, because what I say does not cover all I feel. Sometimes I am not even able to verbalise emotions, because I have not realised what I feel somewhere in the back, in a deeper layer. That's where you need your partner to be able to read you, to read between the lines of verbal communication.  If your partner is able to do so, this strengthens your bond and if you can do the same for your partner, perfect.